Friday, December 16, 2016

Am I a FEMALE sex and love addict? Robert Frank Mittiga Recovery Coach

Am I a female sex and love addict?
While the primary etiology of male sexual addiction is mostly based in early emotional neglect, covert parental incest and early attachment deficits – female sex addicts report much greater incidences of profound, overt childhood abuse, physical neglect and trauma – often sexual, which leads to sex addiction and intimacy issues in later life. Some of these women unconsciously live out their early abuse by becoming sex workers (i.e. prostitutes, strippers, involved in porn, sensual massage, etc.), attempting to give themselves a sense of ‘control’ over early out of control experiences. As their adult lives are dominated by exchanging sex for money and the feelings of control and power that sexual behavior offers them, these women have little access to outside support or role models toward change and self-examination.
Not all women who are sex and relationship addicts are prostitutes however, many are housewives, single women and even teens, who utilize sex and romantic intensity as a means of self-stability and comfort, despite the various risks and dangers associated with addictive sexual relationships. In terms of risk taking and out-of-control behavior, female sex addicts are very similar to male sex addicts.
Being HONEST about your acting out is the first step to recovery.....below is a series of questions for self assessment........It is suggested that if you answer yes to 3 or more it is important to seek further assessment. Call us today for private and confidential help. PHONE 0432 944 027 Australia, Email International clients SKYPE programs available.
1. Do you feel that your life is becoming or is unmanageable because of your sexual and/or romantic behavior or your excessive dependency needs?
2. Do you find yourself unable to stop seeing a specific person even though you know that seeing this person is destructive to you?
3. Do you feel that you don’t want anyone to know about your sexual or romantic activities? Do you feel you need to hide these activities from others – friends, family, co-workers, counselors, etc.?
4. Do you get “high” from sex and/or romance and then crash when the act or experience is over?
5.Have you had sex at inappropriate times, in inappropriate places, and/or with inappropriate people?
6. Do you make promises to yourself or rules for yourself concerning your sexual      or  behavior that you find you cannot follow?
7. Have you had or do you have sex with someone you don’t (didn’t) want to have sex with?
8. Have you ever thought that there might be more you could do with your life if you were not so driven by sexual and romantic pursuits?
9. Do you feel desperate about your need for a lover, sexual fix, or future mate?
10. Have you or do you have sex regardless of the consequences (e.g. the threat of being caught, the risk of contracting herpes, gonorrhea, AIDS, etc.)?
11. Do you find that you have a pattern of repeating bad relationships?
12. Do you feel like a lifeless puppet unless there is someone around with whom you can flirt? Do you feel that you’re not “really alive” unless you are with your sexual/romantic partner?
13. Have you ever threatened your financial stability, career or standing in the community by pursuing a sexual partner?
14. Have you ever had a serious relationship threatened or destroyed because of outside sexual activity?
15. Do you feel that life would have no meaning without a love relationship or without sex? Do you feel that you would have no identity if you were not someone’s lover?
16. Do you find yourself flirting with or sexualizing someone even if that was not your intention?
17. Does your sexual and/or romantic behavior affect your reputation?
18. Do you feel uncomfortable about your masturbation because of the frequency with which you masturbate, the fantasies you engage in, the props you use, and/or the places in which you do it?
19. Are you unable to concentrate on other areas of your life because of thoughts or feelings you are having about another person or about sex?
20. Do you find yourself obsessing about a specific person or sexual act even though these thoughts bring on pain, craving or discomfort?
 Call us today for private and confidential help. PHONE 0432 944 027 Australia, Email International clients SKYPE programs available.

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