Sunday, May 28, 2017

ADDICTION and ISOLATION: Late stages of ADDICTION. Robert Frank Mittiga Recovery Coach

Addiction a progressive disease!

For many, isolation is one of the end results of addiction. What was once a fun and sociable part of life turns into quite the opposite experience.  In the fun stage of alcohol or drug use, we often like to be around others—that is, others who like to get high. Substance use often begins with laughter, parties, and hanging out with a group of people. Some people stay in this stage of use, control their drinking, and later go on to lead a responsible life. Others, like me, continue to use more and more.

Drinking Alone
One of the signs of addiction is that the person starts getting high alone. Drinking or using before going out partying is part of the addiction process—as is getting high at any time of the day or night. Drinking, taking pills, or smoking dope first thing in the morning may become the norm.

Why is this? The drug has now become the primary focus of their life.

At this stage, many addicts will become suspicious and paranoid. Straight people (nonusers) are more difficult for the addict to communicate with. They are potential roadblocks to the person’s ability to use.  At this point of addiction, you can usually count remaining friends on one hand. Often just other addicted individuals.

Once the addiction becomes primary, a dependent person’s life is preoccupied with using. He/she spends valuable time and energy planning their day, so as to make sure they will be able to have access to their needed amount of drugs or alcohol. Substance use has overcome the person’s life and it is nearly impossible to hide it.

Covering Up

Virtually everything in the person’s life can become secondary—friendships, family relationships, children, sex, jobs, personal hygiene, eating—you name it. At first the person may go out of their way to overcompensate. When they realise that this main focus of their lives is threatening other areas, in an attempt to have it all, they may try to maintain a perfect image to prove to those close to them that they don’t have a problem. The addict may stay late at work, have people over to dinner, keep a perfectly clean house, and in general try to portray an ideal image. At the same time, they are secretly trying to manage their addiction in isolation. This is referred to as “high functioning.”

As the addiction progresses, trying to prove that they are normal becomes more and more difficult, and eventually the addiction completely takes over. This explains why an addicted parent may eventually be forced to give up their child to a relative or social services. People who have lived through this staggering experience know that it’s not about love—these parents do love their spouses, family, and children—it’s about addiction. The addiction takes hold and consumes their very lives. This is very difficult for any family member or friend to understand, unless they have personally been through it.

Our society seems to believe that it is far worse for a mother to leave her family, but in reality the situation is devastating either way.

When to Intervene

When addiction overtakes a person’s life, and fun has become a distant memory, this is a good time for an effective intervention. When a user starts to lose things in their life that they truly used to care about, they may not know how to turn things around. They might feel helpless, and stop believing it’s possible to make life matter again. In this situation, the best thing for your addicted friend or loved one is to talk to someone who has been there. They will often say that they don’t want treatment. I’ve heard it said that “Treatment won’t work unless a person wants it.” This is not true, a professional intervention can change this mind set.

If you or someone you love is in the grips of addiction please reach out. 

If you identify with the above we can help, call us today as we can provide many options which can be tailored specifically for the individual and their loved ones.

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