Tuesday, May 2, 2017



Part of my own journey toward change has involved recognizing that the power to change lies within myself, and I can’t place blame on any other person for what I choose to do with my life or choose not to do with my life. That being said, my own experience has also shown that the people I surround myself with play a major role in supporting me in my desire to change, accepting the person that I am or dragging me back toward the person that I used to be.

The types of people you may have to clean out of your lives if you want to move forward in a positive direction. Keep in mind that some difficult relationships and some challenging relationships are well worth keeping. Its the toxic relationships are the ones we need to clean out which are characterized by the following;

* Toxic relationships take heavily from us without giving anything back.
* Toxic relationships sap our joy as well as our mental and emotional energy.
* Toxic relationships represent people who are hateful, hurtful, critical and discouraging the
   vast majority of the time you are around them.
* Toxic relationships constantly leave you feeling empty, guilty, incompetent and ashamed
* Toxic relationships represent people who are verbally and emotionally abusive to you.
* Toxic relationships bring out the absolute worst in you.

Standing up to the people who are pouring negativity venom into your mind is a difficult thing. After all, many toxic individuals have mastered the art of manipulation and have ways of turning the situation around on you and heaping guilt on you when you confront them about their behavior. Patrick Mathieu said it well in this Using Mind Control With Difficult People when he provided an interesting twist on the old “insanity” line. He wrote: “Insanity is dealing with the same person over and over again and expecting them to act differently this time.” Confronting the person and making ultimatums again and again can only do so much.

Just because you have decided you want a change in your life, doesn’t mean the people represented in toxic relationships do too. You may have to close yourself off to these people to heal yourself from past wounds and proceed with the changes you want to see in your life. This might involve ignoring phone calls, deleting friends off social networks, blocking e-mails, breaking up, going separate ways or even moving out.

On some occasions, toxic relationships also represent people who tempt you back into destructive habits. For instance, if you are a recovering alcoholic and have a pack of friends who completely disregard your need to stay clean and continue to urge you to throw the brews back with them every weekend, these would be considered toxic relationships. You may have to separate yourself from these people, at least temporarily, until you are strong enough or have a personal breakthrough.

If you are experiencing these problems please make sure you reach out to your recovery sponsors, aftercare or alumni freinds, or seek out a suitable recovery coach..

If you or someone you love is in the grips of addiction call us today for a confidential assessment. CALL US TODAY PH 0439 399 809 OR EMAIL rmittiga@icloud.com

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